How to identify your hidden scripts
You know there are some things that you do on autopilot.
You know that sometimes you react without thinking and you do things that you wish you didn’t…
Sometimes you get triggered and you don’t know exactly why…
These things happen to me often, but I discovered that as I learn more about myself and I learn how to deal with my subconscious beliefs, I am able to detect these reactions more often than not…
Not to long ago I discovered one of these beliefs that was lodged in my subconscious and guiding the way I behaved for many years…
When I was a kid, my parents used to take us camping. We would be out for a whole month during summer time.
I loved that time. I was around 7 years old when my parents found an incredibly awesome campground that had great sites with trees and it was right by the coast with access to the beach. We loved it so much that we ended up going there for several consecutive summers.
I was in heaven, having the beach right there, being able to climb on the rocks on my own, play in the swings at night, making friends from other parts of Spain, playing with fire, and just being outdoors…so cool…
One of the things I remember from that time was when I met a few friends from the south of Spain and I went back to our RV speaking with their accent. I am from the north, from Galicia, and in Spain, the same as in any other country, the people from different regions have different ways of talking, different accents. Anyway, I remember that event because when I started talking like if I were from the south, my older sister who is 9 years older than me, scolded me telling me to stop imitating others and stop talking like that.
As I tell you this, I can see there is nothing too bad with her comment.
But back then, as a 7 year old I took it as bad. The way I took her comment was “I cannot be myself, I cannot do what I like to do because then my sister will not like me”.
It took me a long time until I realized that this was even an issue for me.
It wasn’t until more than thirty years later, when I started doing some inner beliefs work that this event came to my mind.
After I realized it, I decided to talk to my sister about it to see if she even remembered this. She told me that her intention was to show me that I shouldn’t change myself to act like others, that all she wanted to teach me was to be me, without trying to imitate others…
Talking to her, I was able to see her intentions were good, but for me as a little kid, the way I interpreted her comment and her intentions were totally opposite!
As a 7 year old I didn’t get her well intentioned comment and it hunted me for decades…for years I subconsciously acted on the idea that “I couldn’t be myself because others would not like me if I act how I am…”
I didn’t know I had this belief hidden in my mind, buried in my subconscious, and I didn’t know that it was running the way I behave.
I’ve always been very careful to share my opinions, to make sure I don’t upset anybody, to try to please people around me. But I didn’t know that this was based on a wrong idea I made up when I was 7!
Have you ever stop to see if you have any scripts running in your mind that you don’t know about? Have you taken the time to reflect on what you currently believe that it might not be serving you at this moment of your life? Have you ever wondered why you do some things or behave in a certain way?
Maybe, like me, you have some hidden running scripts that are making you behave in certain ways…
But, how do you check it out? I think a great starting point is taking time regularly for self-reflection, making the time to sit and analyze your beliefs and behaviors. I think that is a powerful tool for self-discovery.
Sitting in silence, bringing awareness to how you feel and reflecting on those feelings can open doors to your subconscious and reveal some interesting things about why you behave the way you do.
That’s exactly what happened to me. I was doing some beliefs work with a colleague, sitting in silence paying attention to a feeling I was having in my body, focusing on the feeling and only that. Then out of the blue, I remembered the event with my sister. Guided by my colleague, I started thinking how that event made me feel, why it was upsetting me, what were the reasons behind, until I understood the meaning that I gave it, the belief that I couldn’t be fully me. When I found that, it felt like I just had an “aha” moment…
This understanding allowed me to talk to my sister decades after it happened and clarify her intentions, it allowed me to release that old belief that it was based on a misunderstanding of my sister’s good intentions.
Maybe you don’t have a colleague or a friend to guide you in the discovery process, but even if it’s by yourself, you can have great results.
Use the power of reflection, sit in silence, and focus only on your current sensations, listen to what is coming up in your mind…it could be just an idea, an image, an event that suddenly shows up…
Just allowing yourself to sit and pay attention to your thoughts can help you bringing up a lot of different feelings and if you just let them be, you might discover the door to one of your hidden beliefs.
Besides reflecting and listening to your thoughts, another helpful tool that allows you to see what are some of the hidden beliefs you might have is journaling.
When you notice that you behave in a certain way, when you know that you are triggered by something specific, when you know that you are reacting without thinking…
Bring awareness to those times and ask yourself, what is making me react this way? What is going on that it’s causing me to be triggered? Take a blank piece of paper and let your thoughts come out freely, don’t think about it and let yourself express whatever it comes to mind answering those questions. Let yourself write uncensored for at least 15 minutes and see what it comes to mind…you might find some answers you didn’t expect…
Whether is reflection, silence, talking to a friend or journaling, the main idea behind all of these tools is that you need to allow yourself to fully feel whatever it is that you are feeling. You need to let yourself be aware of all the emotions that you are going through and then question yourself why you are feeling that way.
So tell me, do you let yourself feel fully and completely? Have you ever taken time to reflect on your current feelings and emotions? Do you pay attention to your inner thoughts? Do you know if you have any hidden scripts?
Now, I’d love to know, what do you do to keep check of your subconscious beliefs, and be aware of your habitual behaviors? Let me know below!
xoxo,
Sofia